Ruth 3:13 Meaning: Boaz's Oath and the Kinsman's Duty
Stay this night, and in the morning, if he will perform for you the part of a kinsman, good. Let him do the kinsman’s duty. But if he will not do the duty of a kinsman for you, then I will do the duty of a kinsman for you, as Yahweh lives. Lie down until the morning.”
Tarry this night, and it shall be in the morning, that if he will perform unto thee the part of a kinsman, well; let him do the kinsman’s part: but if he will not do the part of a kinsman to thee, then will I do the part of a kinsman to thee, as the Lord liveth: lie down until the morning.
Tarry this night, and it shall be in the morning, that if he will perform unto thee the part of a kinsman, well; let him do the kinsman’s part: but if he will not do the part of a kinsman to thee, then will I do the part of a kinsman to thee, as Jehovah liveth: lie down until the morning.
Lodge to night, and it hath been in the morning, if he doth redeem thee, well: he redeemeth; and if he delight not to redeem thee, then I have redeemed thee--I; Jehovah liveth! lie down till the morning.'
Stay over to-night, and it shall be in the morning, if he will redeem thee, well — let him redeem; but if he like not to redeem thee, then will I redeem thee, [as] Jehovah liveth. Lie down until the morning.
Meaning in one sentence
Boaz swears by Yahweh to redeem Ruth if the nearer kinsman refuses. This verse reveals how God works through faithful human promises and legal duty.
Context
Ruth and Naomi have returned to Bethlehem, widowed and without provision. Ruth has been gleaning in the fields of Boaz, a wealthy landowner who is also a relative of Naomi's late husband. Naomi sees a possible way forward: she sends Ruth to the threshing floor at night, where Ruth asks Boaz to spread his garment over her as a kinsman. Boaz is moved by her loyalty, but he is not the closest relative. There is another man who has the first right, and duty, to marry Ruth and redeem the family land. In verse 13, Boaz tells Ruth what he will do. He cannot act yet, so he asks her to stay the night and wait until morning. The decision depends on the nearer kinsman. If he accepts, good. If not, Boaz swears by the living God that he will step in. It is a moment of suspended hope, held by an oath.
Key Words
The Hebrew word at the heart of this verse is ga'al, repeated here as "perform the part of a kinsman," "do the kinsman's duty," and "redeem." It means both the legal obligation to buy back family land or marry a widow, and the more tender idea of rescue by a close relative. Boaz uses it four times in one sentence, tying duty to love.
The word behind "if he will" or "if he delights" is chafetz, meaning to take pleasure in or to be willing. The nearer kinsman has a right but not a compulsion. He must want to do it. Boaz himself is willing, but he must let the other man choose first.
Then Boaz swears "as Yahweh lives." That phrase, chai Yahweh, is not casual. It calls on the living God as witness. Boaz binds himself completely. His promise is not just legal talk; it is a vow before God, as sure as the sunrise they are waiting for.
How Christians Read This Verse
Christians have read this verse as showing Boaz's integrity. Wesley's Notes highlight that Boaz "blesseth her as a father, encourages her as a friend, promises her as a kinsman." Gill's Exposition draws attention to the unusually large letter in the Hebrew word for "tarry," noting that ancient readers saw this as a sign: a widow lodging with a man without scandal was remarkable, pointing to God's providence in bringing Ruth into the line of Christ. The Cambridge Bible suggests the overnight stay was strictly for safety, not impropriety. These readings share a conviction: that Boaz honored both the law and the woman, and that God was quietly at work through the legal formalities.
A common misunderstanding
A common misreading is that Boaz sent Ruth away to avoid commitment, or that the night on the threshing floor was improper. In fact, Boaz was careful. He acknowledged the nearer kinsman's prior right and swore an oath to act if the man refused. The Hebrew text even marks the word for "stay" with a special large letter, which commentators like Gill note was meant to draw attention to Ruth's honor in this situation. Far from evading responsibility, Boaz bound himself by the living God and sent Ruth home with six measures of barley, a gift that showed his serious intent.
Living This Out
You might be in a waiting room of your own right now, a situation where the right outcome depends on someone else's choice, and all you can do is wait until morning. Boaz did not push, scheme, or force his way forward. He named the legal process, promised what he could, and then asked Ruth to rest. For this week, that might be your call: speak the truth about your limits, promise what you can actually do, and then lie down until the answer comes. The living God hears the oaths we make in faith, and He sees the night through to dawn.
Main takeaway: Boaz's oath shows that God's faithful care comes through people who honor their commitments with both law and love.
For Families
For ages 5, 8
Boaz told Ruth, "If your other relative will take care of you, good. But if not, I promise I will. I promise by God's name." That is a very strong promise. Boaz wanted Ruth to be safe, so he said she could lie down and rest until morning.
For ages 9, 12
Boaz made an oath by the living God. That was the most serious promise he could make. He knew that someone else had the first right to help Ruth, so he did not rush ahead. He let that man choose first. But he also made sure Ruth knew he would step in if needed. Sometimes we have to wait for others to do their part before we can do ours. Boaz shows us it is possible to wait without worrying, because God sees every promise we make in faith.
Questions People Ask
What does 'perform the part of a kinsman' mean in Ruth 3:13?
It refers to the duty of a close male relative to marry a widow and raise up a son for the dead man, as described in Deuteronomy 25:5-10. This kept the family name and land within the tribe. Boaz is one candidate, but there is a nearer relative who has the first right.
Why did Boaz swear 'as Yahweh lives'?
This phrase is a solemn oath invoking the living God as witness. By swearing this way, Boaz bound himself completely. He was not just saying he would try, he was promising before God that he would marry Ruth if the other man refused.
Was it inappropriate for Ruth to lie at Boaz's feet all night?
The biblical writers took care to show that nothing improper happened. The Hebrew text has an unusually large letter in the word for 'stay' to draw attention to the remarkable fact that a widow and a man could share a space without scandal. Commentators like Gill see this as pointing to God's providential protection over the encounter.
Who was the nearer kinsman, and why does he matter?
Boaz mentions a relative closer than himself (Ruth 3:12). This other man is not named until chapter 4, where he appears briefly and then refuses to redeem Ruth. His existence creates the tension in this verse: Boaz cannot act until the other man has the chance to decide. This shows that God's plan unfolds through the ordinary legal customs of the time.
What does 'redeem' mean in the book of Ruth?
The Hebrew word ga'al means to buy back or to set free by paying a price. In Ruth, it includes both buying the family land and marrying the widow to preserve the family line. When Boaz says he will redeem Ruth, he is taking on a costly responsibility, one that will lead to the birth of King David's grandfather.
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